I get cold feet about marriage sometimes –Actress, Lilian Afegbai

Nollywood actress Lilian Afegbai sasys she once battled with body insecurity, no thanks to her knock knees.

Speaking in a recent interview, Afegbai said, “I think fashion is not just about the body because some people have the body but they do not know how to carry it or can’t get a good designer that understands what they want. Even if you don’t have a perfect body, as people would say, you can always design things to suit your body and cover your flaws. I also have flaws but I have learnt to live with my flaws. We are not all perfect. Everyone has something they don’t like in their body but you would get to a point where you would appreciate what God has given you. I used to be very insecure about my knock knees that I could not wear shorts. You can never catch me with bum shorts because I used to think that my legs are not very straight. But as I grew older, I got to know that I have nothing to be ashamed of. A lot of people still look nice despite not having certain things. It is okay not to have certain things.”

On marriage, Afegbai said, “I do not look at people’s marriages or people’s lives. I believe in individuality, I believe that people should not look at people’s lives to judge others. It does not make sense. But naturally, I have a fear of marriage. My cold feet have nothing to do with the Internet. I am now learning to draw close to God. I have the mentality that as a Christian, I will enjoy the good of everything. It means that if I get married, by God’s grace, my marriage will work out. But it still does not mean I do not have cold feet. I am at the point where I leave everything to God. I love family, I love kids, I want an amazing husband. But at the end of the day, I want what God wants for me.

“I have my cold feet because of the generation we are in now. This generation does not take marriage seriously as before. We don’t understand what marriage is. So, it takes the grace of God to get there. Any little marriage issue this generation wants a divorce but it is only normal to have issues in marriage. If not for the social media age, the settlement will be quicker. I am not saying one cannot leave when one is not happy. Of course, one can leave when it is affecting one’s peace of mind. I will not lose myself and happiness for love. I will only attract people who are comfortable with my lifestyle. However, I can compromise certain things that do not affect my peace for love. Imagine I meet a man who does not like me going out every day. I can reduce my going out for the sake of love but I won’t stop going out totally.”

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